turns out I've been losing Mary for quite some time, she's just been bullshitting to me and looking for a way out behind my back, cause the second I broke up with her she started going out with this guy who was her "friend" for about a month. She's a sneaky ungreatful person. And I'm sure that Mary has been bragging about her new boyfriend to everyone, and saying that I blew my chance... she is the one who blew it in my eyes... she couldn't handle responsibility, which unfortunately in this day and time, and at this point in my life, is required. I tried to give her responsibility -- in fact, it was that or break up in late April!... and she chose responsibility, and couldn't handle it. This new guy is just another time extension to her irresponsibility rollercoaster ride. She started not to like me when I forced her to show some responsibility. She is too immature to have a responsible adult relationship with someone... otherwise we would never have had any problems Time is all I have to give her.... love wasn't enough... I think Mary started becoming disinterested when she realized that her body wasn't worth as much as responsibility to me... despite sex, I still made her clean the house and do chores since she wasn't paying rent... and I made her pay her phone bills etc... She ALWAYS was bitching about how I didn't appreciate her... of COURSE I did!!! Now where is your rent money?! :-) In the real world, Mary does not want to exist... and that is where I've been.. and she tried it... and she didn't like it.. OH I'M SURE no offense to Brian... that would explain why she still talks to me... The relationship was getting soooo stressful for me and that's when I became strict, and told her she had to pay me X amount of dollars each month to cover her expenses, and make up for the rent for the last 6 months... and she agreed. I'm pissed, yet releaved... I don't feel so bad about finding someone new now. She is giving me every reason to see through her, and detach myself from her now. She is a cheater. She has been seeing this guy since before we broke up. Cheating is not tolerated. People who cheat do not care about anyone else besides themselves. This explains why she immediately, at least from my point of view, "jumped" into this new relationship. Bullshit. She's been planning it. How could I have been so stupid.