Brian,

You are a pathetic loser.  Why don't you get a
life?  To put all that time into writing about a 
girl who dumped you is sad.  From what I read
she obviously has absolutely no interest in you 
whatsoever and she probably never will as long
as you live your sordid existence. I graduated
from Marist College and there are plenty of
other women you fucking fool.  Maybe if you 
spent some time away from your fucking computer
programming this complete bullshit-who cares-stuff
you would find another girl.  Maybe not, you 
loser.

It won't be easy, but anything is better than 
chasing after a girl that doesn't want you.  Go 
to the "Nitecap", there are always drunk girls who
need some sex.  Or you could sit behind your 
monitor for hours making a tribute to a girl who
would rather crush your balls with her feet then
lick them !!!  Dude, get away from the computer 
and start hitting on chicks !!  Out of 100 you 
might find a couple decent ones who you could
hang with.......... AAAAAAAAAAA Stop reading this
and go outside to the real world you a-hole.

Brian-
        um... I know exactly the type of love that you had with Mary.  But      
there is a lot to be said about love.  There isnt just one form of love or      
only one way to love a single person.  I guess what you need to ask your        
self is if you will ever stop loving her or she you? granted the love that      
you may feel for her may not be the same love that she feels for you. but       
realise that while you still love her, that it is possible to love others.      

        ... Love is a two way street, not one way you have to be able to
give as as well as receive.  it take 2 to make things go right... and it
take two to makes things go wrong... and most of all Don't know what you
got till it's gone.

        Mary doesn't sound like she was ready to make it a two way street.      
if she is not willing to be in a relationship then you cannot force her too.    
be willing to make your friendship as two way street.                           

                lyssa                                                           

Dear Brian,

	I couldn't help but pour over every last word over your story.
Like a tabloid talk show, your overdramatic and all-too-surburban tale
of woe both startled and ensared me.

	What I can't help but notice is your childish and obsessive
behavoir towards the situation with your ex-girlfriend.  There is a thin
line between love-at-all-costs and hurtful obsession.  As a stranger
looking in, I implore you to re-evalute your situation with Mary.

	The kind of love you champion on your web page has destroyed too
many relationships and hurt too many people.  Please, get over yourself.

With all Due Respect,

	R. Black

Get off it man.  How old is this chick anyway?  You're in college
now, definately time to check out some new possabilites.  I've read
everything about this girl now and I think you can do better if you
get off the computer and get out there.  The best thing I ever do to
get over an old flame is date someone else.  Ending Statement-
longdistance relationships never work and anyone under at least 17
(some people will never be old enough) is too young to know much
about a relationship.  I don't care how mature they feel.  The older
you get the more you realize you don't know.
Susan McMillan

you sad sack of shit. SNAP OUT OF IT. wake up and realize that there is no
time in your short life to be sad or pissed off. fix the problem and get on
with enjoying life.

This is sad man. If you have the time to post a letter she sent to you,
and the ACTUAL letter scanned. It is so completely obvious that you NEED
this girl! Don't question it. Go the 2,000 miles and tell her how you
feel. Don't send her letters, that so impersonal. Go to her house, and
tell her how much you love her. Take the effort that you would use to
update your Mary index on the internet and see her.

Just a thought by an internet surfer.

Dump Her !

Hi Brian.. I went to your page... I can sense your pain ... If you really
want my honest opinion - I have 2..

1).. As hard as it may seem, drop her.. Get on w/ your life, meet other
people.. it will be very difficult at first to try and get on.. you will
manage, and dont forget- there is nothing wrong w/ keeping her in a part
of your heart and not letting anyone take that part of her away from you..

2).. Go for it all the way.. move where she is.. be w/ her.. dont give up..

I dont know yours or her situations as far as finances and etc.. You
really do need to make a *choice* ... and do it.. I think the uncertainty
is what is harder sometimes that the actual issues themselves..

Good luck :) *hugs*

Be happy, you have an innocent relationship, even if it may be dead. The
last time I saw my most recent X she snuck up upon me while I was urinating
and clobbered me with a bottle. After that I stopped commiting myself to
relationships with girls. I'll save my commitment for marriage.
     Listen up buddyboy, women are trouble. I'll list bad things about women
right now.

	1. They, and that means all, secretly lust after other women. It's
	   true, you'll learn that as you get older.

	2. They are vindictive, irrational, and incapable of processing
	   coherent thought. Don't let them fool you, even if they sound
	   sane, they are not.

	3. They talk too much.

	4. They always dump guys who care about them. Then they play with
	   them, like cats play with mice -- and they don't, no matter what
	   they say when confronted with it, feel any type of remorse
	   whatsoever.

You probably think I'm a woman hater by now, I'm not, there are plenty of
things I like about women.

	1. There are alot of them.

	2. There are alot of them.

	3. There are alot of them.

	4. There are alot of them.

Go find a new mary, or sarah, or jane, or whoever... it'll help open your
eyes to the way women are, mainly because as soon as you find a new girl, and
tell your old girl about it, the old girl will be begging you to come back.

Brett.

FUCK MARY (philosophically, not physically) and LIVE YOUR FUCKING LIFE, MAN.
You are in grave danger, because Mary has become an excuse not to do
something constructive.

You don't want mary she's too young.

My professional recommendation is that if you really love her and
from the sounds of things you do, be friends with her and whatever
you do don't lose touch.  If it was meant to be it will happen on
its own.  I know this sounds cheesy but I feel that it is the best
advice I can give you.  Like she said you are in college, and especially
with her being so young she wants to test the water.  It is the same
way with Jen (My ex.)  They are too young to be in steady
long-distance relationship.  They need room to learn from their mistakes,
but when they are ready to settle down and get involved in a relationship
you will be there.

I think you should go out and have a good time and just wait and see
what will happen.  Whatever happens it was meant to be and you can
always think back about the good times.  That's something no one can
take away.

I thought that Jen and I would be together forever.  I think that the
most fun I ever had in my life was spending 4th of July weekend on her
family's boat.  You couldn't have wiped the smile off my face with a
shovel, and I hope that we will always be friends and hopefully someday
more but she doesn't want to have a serious relationship now and that is
something that I have to deal with.  There is more to it than that but
it's an extremely long soap opera like story that would probably take more
time than it is worth to explain, but none the less I'm not going to let
her fall out of my life.  and I think you should do the same.  If it is
friends that she wants then be friends.

Be yourself.  That is what she fell in love with the first time.  Get
a good nights sleep and don't worry there is all the time in the world
to get her back.  I must go now.  Good luck.  Mike

	Never in all my life had I ever felt such love as I did
eminating out of these two lovers.  Nor had I failed to notice my
own attraction for her.  I secretly loved her because I could feel
the love she gave off.  Now I notice how sad I am for you Brian - I
can even feel that now. Not many people can feel love at this age,
but you and I I'm sure both felt the radiation of love coming from
the both of you.  Every picture;  looking at her each day in pictures,
wearing her shirts, and touching her hair etc.  all contact with what
you and her have given off,  your energies.  This energy is the soul,
your soul is a powerful thing.  Your soul is more powerful than any
radio station, so close your eyes think of her with all your heart and
broadcast your love. If she feels your soul's lonliness,  she will be
yours once more. Close your eyes and think of love,  her love but not
her.  This should help the pain for now.
	Your love if powerful enough shall give you your own answer.
GO out with others,  live your life without her.  As have I.  Ignore
what you feel for her,  go out with the other girl.  If after one year's
time if you do not find a girl you love (at least 11 fold from Mary)
then make it known that she was the only one.  If her love is as strong
as yours,  you will bond again.  If not then you are both at a loss...

Brian,

   I feel very much for you.  I am almost in a similar situation.  My
girlfriend (Jamie) and me have been going out for almost a year now,
and will be separated because of her parents moving.  We are both
15 and as a result have very little control over what happens.  The
second worst feeling anyone can have is knowing that you and your
significant other will be separated, so the first must be knowing
that your SO wants to give up on you...

   If you love her, don't give up.  You can't force someone to love you,
but stick with it.  If she loved you before, there's a good chance things
can still work out.  As that other person said, keep in touch with her.
It can't hurt.

   I know how awful this must feel, especially with the holidays.  My
girlfriend was recently grounded for 3 weeks, ruining Christmas plans
we had for MONTHS, and that is NOTHING compared to what is
happening to you.  Still, it is things like this that ruin the holidays.

   Don't give up, Brian.  If you love her, you have the strength to get
through it.  It just takes time.

 I'm sorry about your girlfriend, but thats OK now you can
 go "Hoochie Huntin'"  in Albany or Awbany lingo.

Sorry about the girlfriend, but now that you are in college
(I just finished my Masters so it's not too far behind me) I'm sure
you will meet lots of nice chicks.

Get drunk, get laid, and then watch some football the next day. See if
you made the right choice.  Heh heh, we'll see if you quote that one..